Adapted from Clarissa Pinkola Estes – ‘We were made for this’
I recently returned from a silent solo retreat, where the words of Clarissa Pinkola Estes kept circling around in my head. I had no wifi or any of the usual distractions, so I reached for pen and paper and wrote the words down. Even though I have read her prose several times in the last 20 years, I was surprised at how much I remembered of “We Were Made For This”. I am publishing this on my blog exactly as I penned it as I sat in my little cabin in the Brecon Beacons. I send this out with love and good wishes to all who have seen glaring wrongs that need to be righted and have felt diminished by the seeming immensity of this task.
‘For some of us, these times seem too dark to ever see light again. The immense challenge of correcting the imbalances and of righting the wrongs seem too great to take on. But, I would like to take your hands for a moment and assure you that you are built well for these times. Despite your pangs of doubt, your frustrations in a-righting all that needs change right now, or even your feelings that you have lost the map entirely, you are not without resource, and you are not alone.
Look out over the choppy water; there are millions of righteous souls on the waters with you. Take heart; you are not alone.
We have been in training for dark times such as this for a long time. For many decades, worldwide, souls just like us have been put down, metaphorically or literally, left for dead in so many ways over and over — brought down by naiveté, by lack of love, by being ambushed and assaulted by those following the wrong star and being convinced following any other is grounds for persecution, and by various personal shocks and heartbreaks over time. All of this, and more, can be overcome.
We all have a heritage and history of being gutted, and yet remember this especially … we have also, of necessity, perfected the knack of resurrection.
Over and over again haven’t we been the living proof that that which has been exiled, lost, or demeaned – can be restored to life again? This is as true and sturdy a prognosis for the wounded world around us as it was for our own wounded selves.
…Though we are not invulnerable, our resilience and strength supports us to laugh in the face of cynics who say “fat chance,” and “management before mercy,” and other evidences of complete absence of soul sense. This, and our having been ‘to Hell and back’ on at least one momentous occasion, makes us seasoned vessels for certain. Even if you do not feel that you are, you are.
Even if your puny little ego wants to contest the enormity of your soul being up for the challenge, the smaller self can never for long subordinate the larger Self. In matters of huge importance and life purpose, you have surpassed the benchmarks many times. Believe the evidence of any one of your past challenges and trials. Here it is: Are you still standing? The answer is, Yes! Yes, you are…even if you feel a weariness….yes, you are still standing. If you are still standing, ragged flags or not, you are able. Thus, you have passed the bar. And even raised it. You are seaworthy.
…In any dark time, there is a tendency to veer toward overwhelm with how much is wrong in the world. Do not focus on that. Do not make yourself ill with overwhelm. There is a tendency, too, to fall into being weakened by putting your awareness on what is outside your reach, by what cannot yet be. Do not focus there. That is “spending the wind without raising the sails.” It is a waste of your energy and will not be helpful for you or us.
We are needed, that is all we can know. And though we meet resistance, we more so will meet great souls who will hail us, love us and guide us, and we will know them when they appear. You have all the resource you need to ride any wave, to surface from any trough. Our job, our opportunity, is to sail forward now.
One of the most important steps you can take to help calm the storm is to not allow yourself to be taken in a flurry of overwrought emotion or despair – thereby accidentally contributing to the swale and the swirl. Ours is not the task of fixing the entire world all at once, but of stretching out to mend the part of the world that is within our reach.
Any small, calm thing that one soul can do to help another soul, to assist some portion of this poor suffering world, will help immensely.
It is not given to us to know which acts or by whom, will cause the critical mass to tip toward an enduring good. What is needed for dramatic change is an accumulation of acts – adding, continuing – until the accumulation of these acts tips the scales towards goodness. We know that it does not take “everyone on Earth” to bring justice and peace, but only a small, determined group who will not give up during the first, second, or hundredth gale.
…One of the most calming and powerful actions you can do to intervene in a stormy world is to stand up and show your light. Your goodness, your light, can be what encourages another to show their light. And so it goes.
To display the light of soul in shadowy times like these – to be fierce and to show mercy toward others, both — are acts of immense bravery and great necessity. Disheartened souls catch light from other souls who are fully lit and willing to show it. If you would help to calm the tumult, this is one of the bravest things you can do.
…There will always be times in the midst of “success right around the corner, but as yet still unseen” when you feel discouraged. I too have felt despair many times in my life, but I do not keep a chair for it; I will not entertain it. It is not allowed to eat from my plate. I acknowledge the sadness, this sense of being disheartened. Then I remember Who I am, perhaps connect with my Source as well as other good souls, and continue.’
In that spirit, I hope you will write this on your wall: “When a great ship is in harbor and moored, it is safe, there can be no doubt. But … that is not what great ships are built for.”